The Essential Blueprint
Discover your purpose!Ever wonder…?
A mentor of mine, Gary DeRodriguez, once said, “Stretch, imagine, and create relationships that are aligned to your deepest values.”
The eighth wonder of the world, I would venture to say… is “I wonder why I’m here?”. We’ve all done it, we’ve all questioned our existence at some point or another, so what is the answer? There are so many! That, my friends is why I’m here. My gift and purpose on this planet is to help other people understand what their gift is… what you are meant to learn… what you are meant to experience… what your contribution is to this human experience!
Whether you believe in a Higher Power, let’s call it “God”, or not, whether you have a fastidious religion, or a laid-back “relationship with God”, it’s okay! Nothing that you are doing is wrong. Everything you are experiencing, be it good or bad, is a human process that you chose to experience. And, as hard as some processes may be, there is always a greater good if you can dig deep enough to experience it. The downfall that we spirits face while in human form is that we forget the main focus of why we are here. We forget our “Blueprint”… our map of what our greatest desires to accomplish are.
Do you feel lost? Like you don’t even know yourself anymore? Like you are going through the motions, but never accomplishing anything, rarely enjoying intense joy and satisfaction? Well, it may be time for you to reconnect with your blueprint.
The intention of this website is for interaction. You the reader and me, the writer… let’s interact! Let’s philosophize, theorize and problem solve! Let’s ponder the gifts and curses of this world! Let’s find solutions together to make it a happier, healthier place! I will be contributing my 2-bits here and there, (hopefully consistently) and I will look forward to your feedback! Only by seeking within ourselves, can we fully know who and why we are here. What our deepest values truly are. What really matters! That WE really matter! Each of you matter… if you are doubting, keep reading! You won’t for long!
Norah Jones elicits a Feeling
It’s interesting to me how listening to certain tunes, such as Norah Jones, or watching certain movies can elicit reactions in us. Sometimes those reactions are emotional. Sometimes they are physical.
Eckhart Tolle would say that the “Pain Body” is being alerted and fed. I’ve been exploring what that means to me, in my life, and I can agree that he is on to something. I feel the way the mood of the music, for example, reminds me of things that may be better left alone. Do I really need to have a mood settle over me that reminds me of the loss of my marriage? Is that healthy? Is it healing the pain of the loss or is it feeding it? As I sit here in a mild state of melancholy, I believe that having those feelings re-awakened that I have been working hard at letting go and being at peace with, is not for my greatest good.
So, now my consciousness is inviting me to be proactive with my emotional states. Requesting that I choose carefully the information that I want to absorb.
Think about what triggers your “pain body” and then start the process of letting go.
Do We Have a Purpose?
I have felt all of my life that there is a divine purpose for each and every one of us. In fact, I believe this so strongly that my entire life focus has been about helping people to extract their essential purpose! The idea that we are here just existing, or maybe not, and then we die into nothingness, just doesn’t resonate as a truth to me.
Recently, the idea was presented to me that perhaps this was only my personal delusion… that in fact, maybe there really isn’t any reason for us to be here and there really isn’t anything that we must do.
Think about that for a moment…
Frankly, I have been lost in thinking about it, feeling it, praying about it to my idea of a Higher Power. And, in this moment, I think I have come to the conclusion that perhaps he is right, it IS my delusion. And, my purpose here is to have this delusion and be supportive and helpful to others’ with similar delusions.
In essence, we are both right and we are both wrong. If I remain too wrapped up in my delusion that it prevents me from moving forward, it puts me into a consistent judgmental space of right and wrong, and it presupposes that everyone out there has my same delusion, then I am missing the point about who I am in this world and what I am here to do (based on my delusion)!
So, I’d ask you to ponder this. What is your delusion? Is it holding you back from manifesting what you want to experience here? Or, is it propelling you forward to what your definition of “greatness” is?
You matter. We all matter. Be it my delusion or not, I am proud that I believe that.
Please share with me your thoughts or comments. I would love to dialogue with any of you who may come upon this blog!
Getting Congruent
If you consider your life, how you live it, who you share it with, and what matters about it, consider the congruency or lack of congruency within it. Are you living the life that “fits”? Does it feel right? Are you always finding that others are doing things to you that you have no control over? Do you believe that where you live is holding you back from being the person you were meant to be? Do you find yourself angry often, but when you look at the reasons why you are angry and really step outside of the situation, you see that you are reacting to something out of proportion with the actual event?
All of these things effect our congruency in our life. Anthony Robbins, the father of “life coaching”, said “Your decisions are what shape your destiny.” What kind of decisions are you making? Are you soley thinking about what is best for you? Or are you taking into consideration a more global perspective, or at a very minimum, the familial perspective? Our actions directly affect others. Period. The decisions that we make now are the catalysts for changing our universe. Sound big? Sound unrealistic? Well, it isn’t. It’s a complete truth. What we do, where we go, how we choose to live our lives in conjunction with others directly influences the world we live in. So, upon inspection of your life, are you living congruent with your deepest core values?
Consider this as one example of becoming congruent, a friend of mine and her husband were very up and coming. They were making a name for themselves within our community as successful real estate investors. They were living a rich life full of family and fun, mostly debt-free and happy.
However, the friends that they shared their spare time with chose to not have jobs, to live off of welfare, in rundown rental houses and apartments. They enjoyed using recreational drugs as well as the benefits of frequent and excessive alcohol consumption. They talked about what they did in high school, local and global gossip, and what the new technology was creating for stimulating video games such as Grand Theft Auto. These people weren’t bad people, just lackadaisical and uninspired with life.
I asked my friend one day, not out of judgment just base curiosity, what drew and kept her to being friends with these folks. I was curious because they weren’t the sort that were challenging, uplifting, spiritually nurturing or anything else positive that I could really see that was aligned with who I saw her to be in this world. She wasn’t really sure of the answer. In fact, it initially was upsetting to her. Later on though, she and her husband talked about it and they realized that they were remaining friends with these people mostly out of a shared history and habit. They were frequently frustrated by this group of friends lack of interest in the world we live in or having much of a contribution to it. When they finally saw the big picture, they realized it was time for them to move forward in their lives in a positive, intelligent way. They invited their friends to “grow up” with them, but that wasn’t to happen, so they parted ways fairly peacefully.
Now, I never put her friends down. People are people and it takes a variety to make the world interesting, but something in my questioning of their relationship lifted a veil from my friends eyes and she saw them in a different way. She knew that although there were benefits to the friendship (in this case, they were the big fish in the small pond and it made their egos feel good), but ultimately, these were not people who were aligned with her core values and they would not help her as she grows and learns in this world. And, she realized that that was important to her.
She and her husband have since cultivated fresh relationships with neighbors, other investors and people along the way that they have positive, reciprocal relationships with. They are active examples of people who are striving to live with congruency.
As we learn who we are on the inside, what matters to us and what our contribution is, we can actively reflect that on the outside. Choosing our friendships, our mentors, our advisers, what activities we do, where we go, what we listen to, read about, watch on television, these are all ways in which to become more congruent with who we really are. We are an active work in progress. Small incremental positive changes in whichever direction we need to go, is precisely what we need to do to create mammoth positive changes in ourselves and the world over time!
I challenge you to go forth and live congruent with you core values!
Blessings!
The Ripple Effect
When I was a young girl, I was quite taken with this poem, “There’s a ripple effect in all that we do, what you do touches me, what I do touches you.” It was on a really groovy 70’s poster that hung on the wall of my room. It didn’t site an author, so unfortunately, I have no one to credit. The words were so powerful and evocative that they have stayed with me all these years. Time and again I have reflected back on the simplicity and truth in those words.
In some ways, it’s like saying that Karma will come back to you, positively or negatively, depending upon what you do. We have a choice in every instance, to create a positive vibration or the contrary. Sometimes we may worry that if we stand up for ourselves and hold our ground, and not take care of the other person or persons involved, that we will be creating a ripple of negativity. I stand to think that when we hold true to ourselves, with love and integrity, we will create a space that will allow others’ to hold true to themselves also, with love and dignity.
There are natural consequences in this world. For example, my son may knock over a plant, breaking the pot and making a dirty mess everywhere. He didn’t maliciously knock over the plant. It was an accident. However, there are still consequences from that action. He still needs to clean up the mess, possibly buy me a new pot out of his hard-earned money, and re-pot the plant if it survived the crash. Another consequence is that I lose a pot and possibly a plant. Likely both of our time is taken with the cleaning up, the going to the store for new supplies, etc. Cause and effect. It doesn’t always mean that we make a conscious choice around how or why things happen. Things happen, consequences take form, and we get to decide how to react. We can react by throwing a fit, calling out abusive words, stomping our feet…. or, we can choose to remain calm and take care of the mess without letting the incident take us to another place of regret.
That isn’t to say that some days I don’t throw the fit and overreact! Of course I do! More and more though, as I become awakened, I realize that this is just “stuff”. This isn’t significant in the big picture! And, understanding that allows the space for life to take the course of our destiny, our blueprint. I allow myself to have moments where I am angry, frustrated, sad, etc… but, I make a conscious effort to identify that this is what I am feeling now, let the feeling happen in as safe a way as possible, and then release the hold the feeling has on me as soon as its appropriate. Remembering that it is just a feeling, it is not my overall essence.
One thing that I am in full awareness of… life cause ripples, we affect people knowingly and unknowingly, positively and negatively. However, if more often than not, we can choose to create positive ripples I’m suggesting that everyone will benefit in a global way. Especially ourselves.
I leave you with this quote by Earl Nightingale as you may ponder what type of ripples you are creating in your life, and in others’ lives, “Our attitude towards life determines life’s attitude towards us.”
May you create peaceful and gracious ripples throughout your life…
Allowing gratitude and generosity in your life
I’ve been pondering gratitude quite a lot lately, as my life has taken some unexpected turns, some in which could easily lead to a nose-dive into the pools of despair. So, to think and explore the concepts around being thankful, at times can seem daunting. My Higher Self, however, disagrees. My Higher Self is inclined to think that even hardships are blessings. Yes, even the terrible tragedies create blessings often in some form.
You see, we live in a world of contrasts and reciprocity; often viewed as yin and yang, dark to light, high to low, in to out, etc. There is a duality in our world that creates seemed blessings and assumed curses. Many by now have heard of the Law of Attraction. It has gotten quite a stir lately with the movie The Secret and all of the spiritual gurus jumping the bandwagon! Not that it isn’t a bandwagon worthy of jumping, it is. It has been often pushed and touted as an alternative to positive affirmations, or rather, it really just takes positive affirmations to the next level. At any rate, often the focus is on getting rich, and for many, that is the most important thing. “Ye who dies with the most toys wins” would not be such a famous quote, if the majority didn’t crave money and material possessions. I’d like to suggest another way to encourage the Law of Attraction and the Law of Reciprocity to be utilized not only to YOUR advantage, but also to the WORLD’S advantage.
And, this is where the whole “gratitude” aspect comes into play… For us to take the high road, where we can hold our head’s high and know that we are each doing the best we can, with the tools we have been given, to accomplish exactly what we are here to do. That may sound somewhat complex to some, and you may be wondering what in the heck I mean, but please bear with me! I don’t want you to have to give up all of your material possessions! I’m just suggesting, that the Universe is abundant! There is plenty for everyone! And, part of this process of attraction is allowing yourself to accept the abundance and be certain in your generosity to others’ that it will be reciprocated, often tenfold, to you! It is a good idea to share, and know that you will never be without.
The Tao Te Ching says this quite nicely, “Instead of trying to be a mountain, be the valley of the universe and all things will come to you.” In the Bible, it is taught that as you give, you will receive. This truth, no matter what your faith, is prevalent in the Law of Attraction and the Law of Reciprocity. Nothing, and I mean nothing, that you do, say, show, give, or take is without effect. In physics they have a law derived from Newton that states, “For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.” All of these things point to the elementary “cause and effect”. What you do matters. What I do matters. We, globally and independently, matter. So… matter in a big way. Matter in a series of small ways. Matter in a “Pay it Forward”, live your best life, be thankful for the rain, the sun, the grass that grows underfoot… the sadness that comes into your world because it teaches you compassion for others’ sadness… the food on our tables that nourish us, knowing that there are so many out there that are without nourishment…. We are so rich with blessings. Feel those blessings. Be grateful for them. And then, do what you can, in small ways or large, to share them. Those blessings will befall you tenfold and more.
Believe. Go forward. Be grateful. Bless others’ and allow yourself to be blessed.
Ahh Dreams… the sweetest entertainment!
“They say that dreams are the windows of the soul- take a peek and you can see the inner workings, the nuts and bolts.” ~Henry Bromel
When looking into your heart and soul for answers, I would like to suggest taking stock in your dreams. Not just your fantasies and daydreams… but your nighttime adventures. Your fantasies and daydreams will lead you to the places that your heart yearns to go. Your sleeping dreams will evoke sparks of illumination, hope and inspiration!
Dreams, they could be your direct link to God. Have you ever considered what a brilliant format that would make? God could talk to us, give us suggestions and hints about what we are doing in this world and perhaps what we should be doing, without having to be this oppressive, stifling figure snuffing out our free will. Well, I for one, believe it to be true. Not to say that every dream we can remember is a poignantly expressed truth. But to be open to the concept that occasional flashes of brilliance may befall us, if we can choose to explore our deepest subconscious yearnings and remain open-minded.
“To accomplish great things we must dream, as well as act.” ~Anatole France (1844-1924)
Any great soul-seeker, anyone willing to take on their own psyche… to explore the magnificent depth of our being, has to come at some point to the analysis of their dreams. To do this with the desire to learn and grow, certain sacrifices must be made:
1) You will need to dedicate yourself to taking blurry-eyed notes whenever you awake to relieve yourself or let the dog out.
2) You will need to persevere. This is not something for those seeking immediate gratification. Take your time and collect a series of data before you start making judgments about what God is telling you!
3) Realize that dreaming may not be the best and most direct route for you. There are many ways to explore our unknowns, and messages come from all angles and sources. This is an exercise to help you to open yourself up to possibilities. It is one path but certainly not the only path!
Starting tonight, I want you to start exploring your dreams. In order to do this effectively, it is best to keep a notebook and a pen near your bed. At any time through the course of the night that you may wake up, jot down a few quick notes about what you were dreaming about. It doesn’t need to be much, just whatever comes to mind… colors, textures, people, whatever. Then again, first upon waking, write down whatever you can remember with as much detail as possible. Continue to do this night after night. Don’t worry if nothing seems to make sense, oftentimes, dreams won’t individually, or they won’t at first, but in retrospect they may make sense. Often later, collectively, they may paint an intuitive picture for you to meditate upon. Some of you may have very introspective, thoughtful dreams that very explicitly give direction. Pay attention to these dreams. They may not be coming through as 100% accurate truths, but they may have an underlying message that shouldn’t be ignored either.
A couple of good websites that can help you to decipher your dreaming are:
http://www.dreammoods.com/
http://www.dreammoods.com/dreamdictionary/
Remember, your best and most accurate dream interpreter is you. These sites are here to be helpful and they have general guidelines that interpreters know to be consistent dream symbols, but they aren’t necessarily set in stone. Trust your intuition and it won’t fail you!
I’ll look forward to your comments about how everything is turning out while you explore this provocative, informative form of entertainment and enlightenment!
