Getting Congruent

6 10 2009

So tell me, or more importantly, tell yourself, with what and how are you being incongruent in your life?

What areas specifically do you wish you could change? How specifically would you like to change? What is preventing you from moving forward and becoming congruent with the person that within your heart and soul you know you were meant to be?

These questions are good to implore the spirit and clarify who and what you are in this world. Our inward representation of ourselves is just as important as our outward representation. When you start digging deep within, asking the tough questions and allowing the honest answers to come forth, you will notice that you will begin to see patterns. Once you can recognize the behavior patterns, where they are in sync with who you really are, and where they are incongruent, you will then have the ability to make positive changes!

We have the ability to manifest our greatest good. Sometimes it is necessary to gain help from a trained therapist and other times we are able to make the changes in ourselves just by becoming aware that the change is needed.

I trust that as you go through your process of self-analysis you will notice the nuances that make you special, the gifts that you have that set your importance in the world apart from others, and the changes that will be so easy for you to make as you awaken!

Now is the time to start taking responsibility for your life with action!





The Ripple Effect

28 11 2008

When I was a young girl, I was quite taken with this poem, “There’s a ripple effect in all that we do, what you do touches me, what I do touches you.”  It was on a really groovy 70’s poster that hung on the wall of my room.  It didn’t site an author, so unfortunately, I have no one to credit.  The words were so powerful and evocative that they have stayed with me all these years.  Time and again I have reflected back on the simplicity and truth in those words.

In some ways, it’s like saying that Karma will come back to you, positively or negatively, depending upon what you do.  We have a choice in every instance, to create a positive vibration or the contrary.  Sometimes we may worry that if we stand up for ourselves and hold our ground, and not take care of the other person or persons involved, that we will be creating a ripple of negativity.  I stand to think that when we hold true to ourselves, with love and integrity, we will create a space that will allow others’ to hold true to themselves also, with love and dignity.

There are natural consequences in this world.  For example, my son may knock over a plant, breaking the pot and making a dirty mess everywhere.  He didn’t maliciously knock over the plant.  It was an accident.  However, there are still consequences from that action.  He still needs to clean up the mess, possibly buy me a new pot out of his hard-earned money, and re-pot the plant if it survived the crash.  Another consequence is that I lose a pot and possibly a plant.  Likely both of our time is taken with the cleaning up, the going to the store for new supplies, etc.  Cause and effect.  It doesn’t always mean that we make a conscious choice around how or why things happen.  Things happen, consequences take form, and we get to decide how to react.  We can react by throwing a fit, calling out abusive words, stomping our feet…. or, we can choose to remain calm and take care of the mess without letting the incident take us to another place of regret.

That isn’t to say that some days I don’t throw the fit and overreact!  Of course I do!  More and more though, as I become awakened, I realize that this is just “stuff”.  This isn’t significant in the big picture!  And, understanding that allows the space for life to take the course of our destiny, our blueprint.  I allow myself to have moments where I am angry, frustrated, sad, etc… but, I make a conscious effort to identify that this is what I am feeling now, let the feeling happen in as safe a way as possible, and then release the hold the feeling has on me as soon as its appropriate.  Remembering that it is just a feeling, it is not my overall essence.

One thing that I am in full awareness of… life cause ripples, we affect people knowingly and unknowingly, positively and negatively.  However, if more often than not, we can choose to create positive ripples I’m suggesting that everyone will benefit in a global way.  Especially ourselves.

I leave you with this quote by Earl Nightingale as you may ponder what type of ripples you are creating in your life, and in others’ lives, “Our attitude towards life determines life’s attitude towards us.”

May you create peaceful and gracious ripples throughout your life…